The other day, I introduced an interesting blog article about marriage = cockroach trap. However, there are many people who are happily married, whereas others are not suitable for marriage.
I am not suitable for marriage. Let me give you some reasons why I think so.
1) I don't like children
I like a quiet environment. Children are noisy. They deprive sleep. Giving birth to a child seems to hurt badly. I can't imagine how much the pain would be as even menstrual cramps are unbearable.
Women with children tend to talk only about their children whenever they have a chance. When I ask a friend how her child is, mainly as a courtesy and not out of my pure interest, she becomes unstoppable rambling on and on. For those who don't like children, receiving a lot of pictures of children on New Year's cards and Christmas cards is also too much.
Of course, it is wonderful that friends love their children and raise them with love. The problem is that the definition of a doting parent is quite different between many parents and those without children. When I come in contact with someone who seems to be an eccentric parent obsessed with her/his child, I don't want to be like that.
2) I don't like men who like to preach
Men are dominant and like to preach. I think it's this characteristic that makes most of the CEOs of large companies male. Looking at the boss of monkeys and the male of the lion herd, I guess it may be one of the characteristics as a living thing.
My father was also such a type. He had a long career as a civil servant and loved to make meticulous rules and keep his family following them. He was so smart, affectionate and responsible, and right, so receiving his preaches was a good training to grow up. Thanks to him, I was able to become financially and mentally independent, so I don't need a preaching old man anymore.
However, as a characteristic of men, there are many who want to teach adults as well. When I read a manual book on love and marriage, it says that if you take advantage of these qualities of men and let him talk, ask him to do what he can, and praise the results to the fullest, you can build a good relationship. Fortunately or unfortunately, I find these tricks annoying because I can do most of the work myself, including challenges like cockroach extermination.
3) I don't like communal living
Because I grew up in the above environment, I feel very comfortable in a free life where I am not controlled by anyone and if I want to make rules, I just make them myself and follow them myself. I can focus when I want to concentrate, sleep when I want to sleep, and take a bath when I want to. I can say what I want to say by myself. I can write when I want to write a blog.
It might sound bragging, but my aesthetic sense is good. A friend of mine who came to my house and a craftsman whom I assigned to paint the exterior wall of my house told me so. So, that was not a flattery, I guess. He said "You have a very good sense of color, so if another customer is lost next time, can I ask you to look at it?" I would like to maximize this wonderful aesthetic sense and don't want to be disturbed by anyone.
4) I don't like the Japanese family register system
In Japan, with some exceptions, marriage means that the female are pressured to change their surnames. Due to the troublesome administrative procedure associated with this, and above all, related to 2), I do not want to be incorporated into the system controlled by the first person in the family register, i.e., the husband.
There have been discussions for decades to change this system and allow people to retain their family names even after marriage, but nothing has changed. I don't think it will change in the near future.
5) I don't like 3 Cs (closed spaces; crowded places; and close-contact settings)
When it comes to communal living, three Cs cannot be avoided. I don't want to wear a mask even inside the house. I don't want to be a close contact and get infected with corona. I don't want to get a questionable vaccine.
